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How to Deal with Your Child’s Temper Tantrums

Posted By : Administrator Wednesday 25 Jan, 2017
How to Deal with Your Child’s Temper Tantrums

Temper tantrums and meltdowns are extremely challenging for parents. They are more common in younger children due to limitations in language; when a child struggles with too many emotions, he/she doesn’t know of any other way to react. Many parents find tantrums hard to understand. At times, the natural reaction is to yell at the child for his/her outburst. This, however, does not work and may make an already stressful situation more difficult. What many don’t realise is that anxiety can play a big role in a tantrum or meltdown. Along with experience and time, you can learn your child's triggers and coping methods.

Below are 10 tips on dealing with a child's temper tantrums.


1. Remain Calm

Your child will feed off of your energy. Shouting only makes the child want to lash out more. It can also make you feel helpless. If your child is suffering from anxiety, keeping calm will help calm your child. 


2. Make Sure Your Child Has Everything He/She Needs

Sometimes young children cannot verbalize their needs and become frustrated, which leads to temper tantrums. First check if your child is hungry, thirsty, soiled or sleepy. These are the most common reasons for an outburst.


3. Physical Activity  

Whenever possible, have your child engage in physical exercise and activities that they enjoy. If they have a tantrum, explain to them that participating in their favourite sport or activity can help them feel better. A busy and tired child also has less time for tantrums!


4. Speak to Your Child

Many children crave attention. Taking a moment to sit down and ask your child what the issue is. This can help calm the child and give you an understanding of what the underlying issue may be.


5. Explain Why You Said No

Depending on your child’s age and maturity level, sometimes hearing the word ‘no’ can make them feel angry. Explain why you said no. For example, ‘You can’t have another cookie because you will have a stomach ache. Do you want to have a stomach ache?’ 


6. Offer Consequences

For older children, explaining consequences will help them understand that their behaviour needs work. For younger children, this may not always work as they may not understand the concept of consequences.


7. Let Them Cry It Out

Many parents of younger children allow their child to play out their tantrum. Sometimes reasoning does not work. Ensure they are in a safe location and let them cry it out. 


8. Stay Firm

When disciplining an older child, it is important to hold your ground. This will teach them that a tantrum is not a positive way to express their emotion.


9. Be Consistent

Every child needs structure. A child feels safe when there is consistency and permanence in their life. By being consistent, you are showing your child that bad behaviour always has consequences and good behaviour will always be rewarded. 


10. Getting Professional Help

When any of these symptoms become too regular and begin to affect your and your child’s relationship and/or social situations, you should seek support from a psychologist and/or psychotherapist. They can not only guide you on how to diffuse such situations but also detect any underlying issues, such as an anxiety disorders, so that you can cater to all of your child’s needs.


Catex Health is a large network of mental health experts who are available 24x7 for your support and will ensure confidential, dignified and empowering support for any sort of emotional distress. Click here to reach out to an expert or call +91 9911775626.